How many times have you tried to lose weight? And each time you tried and failed, you ended feeling more hopeless than the time before, yes? I know, because I remember. The ‘oh well, what’s the point, I may as well eat the whole cake’. And oh my, the self hatred just keeps marching on!
When you are overweight, food is the problem and the solution all rolled into one. Food is your comfort; so when you try to change your normal comfort routines (eating a bag of chips while watching TV, wings and fries as your fave meal, Friday night pizza) you fall into a state of feeling deprived. I used to start singing this old song in my head: ”Is that all there is? Is that all there is, my friend?” Woe was me.
I had a meeting with a couple of women regarding eating well strategies. I indicated that after all these years I still craved white bread with half a jar of processed cheese- all those high fat, processed and nutritionally deficient foods – but I chose not to eat them. One woman confided to the other afterwards that she found that sad – that I still wanted those foods after all these years. And in a moment of clarity I realized why she and others still struggled. Because she thought she would reach a moment when she didn’t want to eat unhealthy foods. And she never will, so she continues to wait for a reality that doesn’t exist.
Do I miss those huge chocolate bars, whole pizzas, poutine, etc? You’d better believe it!!!!! But I choose not to eat them; that is a conscious decision made from the awareness that if I eat those foods I will lack energy, I will gain weight, I may give myself a heart attack or diabetes (runs in my family, folks!) And how powerful is that - the feeling of control over my impulses leading me to a more vital life.
Don’t get me wrong. It ain’t easy. And if you think that I don’t gain and lose 20 pounds here and there, get real. I am human, and I also have those failures to meet my expectations. The difference now is that I don’t give up. I take the time to recognize I am not eating well or exercising enough; I think about why I am doing that and then I try to pick myself up the next day.
Eat consciously. Forgive yourself for your poor choices. But don’t give up. You may need to try 50 times before you get to the 51st time when it will work. If you realize that each ‘failure’ is part of your final success you will frame each attempt into a positive window.
And living in a state of hope, and appreciation of your efforts sure beats banging yourself over the head!